This afternoon, my wife and I worked on the garden together. This is one of the hobbies we have shared together since we were married. We do this almost every week end, usually on a Saturday.
We normally spend about an hour and half tidying the garden, weeding, pruning, re-potting, adding fertilizer etc etc. It can be quite tiring and back breaking especially when we have to re-pot plants and dig up the ground to grow new plants.
And because we live in the topics, the humidity can be a challenge but then we have done it for so many years and at the end of it, we found it rather rewarding. We have made something beautiful together.
We find that sharing a hobby together is a sure way of deepening our relationship and spending time doing such recreational activities have helped us strengthen our bond. We have been married for 25 years! Sure we have conflicts and quarrels at times, but we are not overcome by them. We resolve the issues and move on.
Besides gardening, we also take walks together in the evenings; at least twice a week, although we hope to do more. We also travel together and we are planning for a 5 day trip to Bangkok in December 2012. In fact, we have booked our air tickets and hotel. This year, this would be the 4th time we are travelling together.
Such common pursuits not only help in increasing our love, but also building up a friendship that would add meaning to our marriage. It has helped is to be close together and increase the level of understanding between us.
But before you jump into the bandwagon of sharing a hobby with your partner, be sensitive to the needs of your spouse or partner as each of us are different and would have different interests and pursuits. First, it is wise to sit together and discuss each others likes and dislikes. One must understand and respect each others' opinion about certain things. Discuss the games and things you liked to do when you both were kids. This may help you in coming up with some ideas about your pursuits together. It you are having problems in finding some avocation, here are a few activities from which you can choose those that you and your partner would love to do together.
Second choose a hobby and get started. Don't delay, make plans to start as soon as possible. It's okay if later you found that the hobby does not fit both of you. Start again with another one. The key is to start sharng one together. Here are a bunch of ideas of hobbies that you can do together:
- Grow a garden
- Design and work on your landscaping
- Learn tennis, skating or golf
- Get season tickets to a sporting event or the opera
- Take art, dance, or cooking classes
- Go running together
- Volunteer charity work
- Go on picture-taking walks
- Visit museums
- Read the same book and discuss
- Play XBox or another video game
- Cook new recipes
- Collect coins or stamps
- Write a book
- Travel
- Start a blog
Have fun and a blessed marriage!!
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